Finding the Pieces

The story of how a lost boy found home

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Father, husband, professor, writer, nerd.

The Medium Blogging List

Hello! I’ve decided to dust this old blog off and start writing again, but I wanted to point in the direction of where I wrote between the end of the blog’s first chapter and the start of its next one. You can find my Medium profile here, or you can skim the posts and their summaries below if you’re interested in reading what you might have missed out on these last several years.

These posts do not include everything I wrote on Medium, but some of the highlights and sections of the larger series Moments to Me.

Transgender, Christian, and Angry

February 18th, 2018

Image text: Am I welcome here? Transgender in the church. My journey of being openly gay and transgender in the modern-day church.
My journey of being openly gay and transgender in the modern-day church.

Transgender and Christian: Reflections on Lent 2018

February 14, 2018

Reflections on Lent. Transgender in the church: As I approach an important decision to medically transition, I find it wholly appropriate that my time to reflect and decide falls perfectly in line with Lent
As I approach an important decision to medically transition, I find it wholly appropriate that my time to reflect and decide falls perfectly in line with Lent

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 1

February 20, 2018

A Transition Story - Moments to Me: I started coming out as transgender nearly a year ago. Slowly, I'm beginning to recognize the man I see in the mirror. I see pictures of myself when I was afraid to be seen, when I hid behind makeup and a name that didn't feel like my own. And now I see myself, so close to starting my medical transition, and I cannot wait to see what the rest of this journey will be.
I started coming out as transgender nearly a year ago. Slowly, I’m beginning to recognize the man I see in the mirror. I see pictures of myself when I was afraid to be seen, when I hid behind makeup and a name that didn’t feel like my own. And now I see myself so close to starting my medical transition, and I cannot wait to see what the rest of this journey will be.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 2

March 6, 2018

A Transition Story - Moments to Me: One of my favorite parts of coming out as transgender was getting to pick a new name. My birth name never quite felt like it was my name. With some help from friends and family, I am proud to say that my new name is absolutely mine.
One of my favorite parts of coming out as transgender was getting to pick a new name. My birth name never quite felt like it was my name. With some help from friends and family, I am proud to say that my new name is absolutely mine.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 3

March 15, 2018

A Transition Story - Moments to Me: Transitioning is a season that is filled with both joy and pain. Right now I'm wrestling through what it looks like to be open, honest, and proud of who I am. That includes learning how to let go of the need to prove to others that I am trans.
Transitioning is a season that is filled with both joy and pain. Right now I’m wrestling through what it looks like to be open, honest, and proud of who I am. That includes learning how to let go of the need to prove to others that I am trans.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 4

April 4, 2018

An image of the author looking away with strings of words that others have said in relation to him transitioning medically. These words are detailed in the beginning of the blog post.

A lot of people have a lot to say about my decision to start hormone replacement therapy (HRT). For most of them, I appreciate the care and concern as well as the excitement. And I am grateful for and trying to understand the grief that some of my closest loved ones are dealing with as I start my medical transition.

But at the end of the day, this is a decision I have been ready to make for a long time. Maybe I should have invited more people into that decision. But I can’t say that I regret having made it at all.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 5

April 30, 2018

I find myself sitting in the church I was hoping to call home. It’s been a little rough these last few months, but something tells me it’s not time to give up.

I struggle to listen to the sermon; the man on the stage a living, breathing reminder of the pain I associate with this place.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 6

June 11, 2018

A Transition Story - Moments to Me: Coming out is hard. I'm going through the process of figuring out who I am while hoping the people I love have the patience to learn alongside me.
Coming out is hard. I’m going through the process of figuring out who I am while hoping the people I love have the patience to learn alongside me.

Transgender and Christian: The Homeless Ones

August 20, 2018

Finding myself in the fold of the LGBTQ+ Christians without a church to call home.

One year later: Becoming Parker

August 30, 2018

Reflecting on the decision to come out as transgender and the aftermath of that choice. I didn’t choose to be trans, but I sure as hell chose to stop lying about it.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 7

November 4, 2018

A Transition Story - Moments to Me: One grief, hope, love, and growing up.
One grief, hope, love, and growing up.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 8

February 15, 2019

On the complicated relationship between my body and me.

Moments to Me: A Transition Story, Part 9

March 29, 2019

Being me is not hard. Letting others see me? Being honest about my needs, my fears, my wounds? Giving myself permission to draw boundaries and protect my heart? That shit is hard.

The Weight of Silence

August 10, 2020

It’s been 17 months since I’ve written publicly. This is my story, and my decision to pick up writing again. (Spoiler alert: I did not pick up writing again.)

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